Narcissistic Family Member / Spouse
Families with a Narcissist family member struggle to manage and contain feelings of confusion, rejection, hostility, anger, fear and helplessness. Families with a Narcissist become used to being either held in praise and/or rebutted, rejected and criticized developing a sense of helplessness that becomes overwhelming. The result is possible dissociative ways to cope and becoming "numb" surrendering to their own fate. It's an all consuming battle that results in questioning themselves and negating themselves the right to their happiness and sense of security.
Family members with a Narcissist may "zone out", dissociate and develop negative self image issues, low self esteem, lack of self worth and self confidence. This may adversely affect their career choices, professional relationships or fulfillment of their goals in life, because the outcome might result in failure. This creates a whole set of other issues regarding negative self talk and the inability to move forward and beyond their limitations both personally and professionally.
Understanding the Narcissistic family member is as complex as trying to navigate through the Amazonian rain forest with unforeseen obstacles that transcend human rational. The unpredictability and volatility of the relationship between the Narcissist and other family members becomes a journey of who can survive and who can outlast who. The Narcissist may use denigration towards their family as a method of control without being aware of its destructiveness, creating guilt and shame for the rest of the family.
I am certified in Dr. Karyl McBride's five-step recovery model for treating adult children of narcissistic parents. My specialization is working with conflictual relationships between adult children and their parents who suffer from Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Tendency.
Contact me if you are seeking psychotherapy help as a spouse, sibling or relative of a narcissistic family member.